Wishful thinking

“Hey, Alpha,” said Fred. “How long do you think
you can keep up this D/s lifestyle?”
From now until then, the day that I die,
then in the hereafter, I say with a smile.

“I hear you squawk that mighty big talk,
but do you honestly think it’s for real?
Your sub has a say in how long you play,
and she may not feel like sealing your deal.”

The deal was set soon after we met
with the foundation of unconditional love.
We’ll have our play time, which may some day decline,
but the mindset and D/s dynamic still rises above.

A cornerstone of love, with honesty, respect, and trust;
plus, we’re mighty compatible, with communication the key.
So, the D/s lifestyle we’ve chosen will never be frozen,
we’ll keep it warm and active for all eternity.

It’s not about the sex, it’s about who we are,
even more to the point, it’s who we wish to be.
We feel it, we live it, we take it, we give it;
and if it brings happiness here, why not eternally?

 

All a Dom needs

See your sub kneel and reverently look at you

Smell the sweat of her inflamed body in service to you

Taste the elixir of arousal between her legs

Hear the whimpers, moans, and screams of satisfaction

and feel your bodies quiver together in the throes of orgasmic release.

 

On a good day—it’s all you’ll need.
On a bad day—it’s all you’ll need.

The lesser of evils

[An Op-Ed piece: not our standard fare.]

 

America will continue to decline in all areas as long as the collective social mentality keeps voting on the lesser of evils based on sound bytes instead of sound minds.

Throughout America the best leaders and employees are those with integrity, dignity, honesty, are not self-serving, they work well with others, plus they work hard and get the job done. But this society continually sends the exact opposite to the final political ballots in each party.

The media continues to bombard the nation with the candidates that they can get the most press from; the big names, big money, big egos, big mouths, big scandals, big controversy, with the biggest claims, and outright biggest liars. The most selfish, self-centered political puppets party politics can buy. Status Quo—which is why nothing changes, and nothing ever really gets done.

The party politicians, on every side, spend their terms wasting time fighting each other in press seeking grandstand moves. Not one of them care about this country or the people. If they did they wouldn’t act like infantile children bickering on the playground. They would settle their differences like mature adults, or at least put them on the shelf until the next election in order to get things done during their time in office.

How long will it take before we the people get fed up with the status quo? How long before we get tired of the power elite politics with every party using the closed-door money deals? How long before we have to stop choosing between the lesser of evils because we can’t get a decent candidate on the final ballots? Or at least one that’s not bought and paid for by the one-percenters—the political puppet masters behind the scenes.

In other words, how long before we demand the system goes back to a government of the people, by the people, for the people?

 

PS: As a disabled vet, I am appalled for having shed blood for a country that has become so corrupted that it no longer cares about the people anymore. Not one party, not a single politician will put the country/the people above their own greed.

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D/s and the Christian belief

I continually come across blogs where someone with a Christian belief is questioning certain aspects of D/s with regard to their faith and beliefs. As a Christian, I too questioned the acceptability of many things when I considered a D/s relationship. In fact, I delved deep and studied every area that even remotely dealt with sex and relationships, because I knew I could never fully let go and enjoy the D/s relationship if it did not, or could not, fit within my faith and beliefs.

The hard truth is that there are definitely areas in the D/s world that are clearly unacceptable to a Christian belief. But there are areas within the D/s world that are acceptable to believers as well.

I can labor long and tediously spell out all the original definitions of the controversial words and topics, along with all the chapters and verses within the biblical texts, but I’ll spare you. I’ll just give a quick rundown on the most widely asked questions and concerns that I’ve come across in the blogs I’ve read.

Masturbation
Solo and mutual masturbation, along with including marital aids is acceptable.
[* And for any naysayers out there, don’t bother bringing up Onan. If you study that story in-depth you will see it has nothing to do with masturbation. He was condemned for disobedience to God, not a sex act.]

Anal
Anal play is acceptable between a man and woman/wife. It may not be politically correct, but it is biblically correct.

Spanking
It is never biblically denounced, and there are acceptable punishments shown, which leans toward acceptability.

Oral
Similar to anal, it is biblically allowed between a man and woman/wife.

Bondage and Discipline
No specific passages on this. However, when compared to other definitions and terminology a good argument can be found to accept milder forms of B&D, but there are areas of extreme B&D that definitely crossover to biblical unacceptability (like bloodletting, etc.).

Marital Aids/Sex toys
Never biblically denounced; it is acceptable within other biblically acceptable areas.

Pornography
Pornographic, nude, or sexual images that do not fall outside of biblically accepted norms are acceptable, but others are not.

Homosexuality
I think everyone knows that homosexuality is “politically correct” but not biblically correct.

Nudity/nudism
It is not denounced, and is acceptable within biblical boundaries.

Role-Playing
It is not denounced, and is acceptable within biblical boundaries.

Multiple Partners Simultaneously
There are certain sects within certain denominations that claim this is acceptable, but they do not do it strictly on a biblical basis, because it is biblically unacceptable.

Let me iterate, the answers given are for Christians that want to know if the specific sexual topics mentioned are biblically acceptable or not. It has nothing to do with political correctness, or any other belief.

Believer/Non-Believer
One thing I noticed in a lot of the blogs with biblical concerns was that a lot of them had a mate that believed and one that didn’t. As long as they have a foundation built on love, honesty, respect, and compatibility, and they communicate well together, they can have a successful D/s relationship. But the faith issue will definitely need to be discussed. And I speak from experience, because kat and I are “unequally yoked,” as the saying goes. However, I’m going to address it from more of a psychological standpoint.

I caution the non-believing mate (especially if it’s the Dom), do not selfishly push the believer into areas that will force them to go against their beliefs. You might convince them to do it for “love” or for “you.” But is it really love, or just your fantasy?

In the long run you may damage their faith, and they will eventually resent you (because they’ll eventually feel guilt or shame for going against their God).

Is it worth it? After all, as their mate (especially a Dom), you’re supposed to care about them, and what makes them happy and gives them peace—plus keeps them protected and safe. Just like they choose to do for you, especially subs, that choose to submit to you physically, their husband/mate, like they spiritually submit to God.

To Submit Or Not To Submit

When Alpha and I first met, I had never heard of D/s; sure, I was somewhat familiar with BDSM, but not D/s. Nor D/s relationships, 24/7 or otherwise.

When we were in the “getting to know each other” stage, he told me he was an alpha. I assumed he meant that he was a take charge sort of guy, which I liked because in my previous two serious relationships, I became the one in charge by default. Both partners wanted a mama, not a wife.

Alpha and I were a little farther in (both had expressed our love for the other) before he introduced the subject of D/s, and told me that in the long term, for him to be completely happy in our relationship, he required submission from me. So, I set out to learn all I could about D/s, both from Alpha and my own research. And what I discovered troubled me: according to what I read, I was not a natural submissive.

Yes, I wanted a man I respected, who was a leader, but…

I didn’t want or need a micromanager telling me how and when to do everything. I didn’t want rituals, supervision, a list of dos and don’ts with punishment meted out for infractions (which, to me, would put me on the level of a child). And I sure didn’t want to sit on the floor at a man’s feet, naked with a plug up my butt while he sat on a comfy couch, reading or watching TV—not that I have anything against butt plugs per se.

The more I read, the more I realized it was not in my nature to be a submissive.

When I brought up what didn’t sit well with me to Alpha, he told me that most of the things I was concerned about weren’t important to him. But he was steadfast in his requirements: he would be head of the household, all final decisions would rest with him, though he would always want my input; in our home and alone, I would dress a certain way, or if he wished, wear nothing at all; that my body belonged to him, to do with as he pleased; and that I would always treat him with respect (as he would me), and if I failed to do so, he would punish me.

Punish me…that was a little hard to swallow. But I did because I loved him. And respected him.

For an intimate relationship to succeed, it requires compromise, and doing our best to meet our partner’s wants and needs. Alpha made it his mission to know me inside and out, to know what the woman and little girl in me needed emotionally and physically to be happy, and he provided it. I knew I could do no less for him.

So I gave him my submission.

I kneel to him to show my respect. I wear his collar to symbolize his ownership of me. I take his hand and let him lead me down the “kinky” path to sexual fulfillment, sometimes a little hesitant as to where it may be going, but always sure he’ll keep me protected and safe.

Yes, I give him my submission. But he gives me so much more.