D/s and the Male G-Spot


The prostate gland is known as the male G-Spot; although it is not the exact corresponding equivalent to the female G-Spot. Since the female G-Spot is the internal or hidden section of the clitoris, you might assume the internal or hidden section of the penis (over one-third of the male organ) would be the corresponding equivalent to the female G-Spot. But such is not the case, even though stimulating the hidden section of the penis can be gratifying while enhancing orgasms.

The prostate gland—about the size of a walnut and positioned directly below the bladder—acquired the G-Spot title because of the seminal release triggered by stimulating the gland. Stimulation is often done through prostate/anal massage—often referred to as “milking the prostate”—or the use of adult toys, including implements specifically designed for that purpose.

Prostate Exam

Dominant Dilemma

A sizable percentage of Doms refuse to include prostate/anal massage in their sexual relations with subs or feel uneasy if they do, all because of certain stigmas that still accompany the act.

Even in the so-called Information Age, misconceptions abound, creating mental, emotional, and even physical barriers that hinder many Doms from enjoying male G-Spot stimulation. The two biggest misconceptions are as follows:

— Desiring any form of anal stimulation is a sign of homosexuality.

— Receiving anal stimulation from subs diminishes their dominance while empowering their subs.

Both beliefs are completely unfounded and predominantly arise from personal insecurities. Humans often latch onto excuses that appear to confirm predisposed beliefs, even without a shred of proof confirming the misconception, while there is a preponderance of evidence to disprove the misconception.

The predominant beliefs focusing on the origins of gender orientation (including homosexuality) —though diametrically opposed to each other—unanimously concur that anal stimulation has nothing to do with gender orientation.

As for D/s, the relationship dynamic is based upon a mutually agreed upon transference of power: a power exchange establishing a Dominant partner and a submissive partner. That dynamic remains in effect as long as both partners remain together in the D/s relationship. The power exchange does not flip-flop between partners (except in situations where the couples have chosen that option). Therefore the power exchange is always based on the relationship dynamic, not any form of sexual practice, position, or form of stimulation.


Experts in the fields of medicine, psychology, and philosophy attribute various positive consequences resulting from prostate/anal massage. Positive consequences that include, but are not limited to, the following: prevention against prostate cancer, alleviating erectile dysfunction, release of emotional and physical stress, and enhanced sexual pleasure—including stronger orgasms.

Multiple Stimulation/Increased Pleasure

Every experienced Dom knows that combining multiple stimulations allows them to increase their sub’s arousal and produce stronger orgasms. Similar consequences are achieved when combining multiple stimulations for their own pleasure. And a variety of pleasures can be experienced through prostate/anal massage.

Although the prostate cannot be touched directly, it can be stroked, rubbed, or pressed through a thin membrane in the rectum. And while the membrane may diminish the sensitivity (like a form fitting condom or glove), the prostate lobes are extremely sensitive to pressure. And various forms of manipulation can create an equal variety of sensations, including the superb sensation predominantly felt during ejaculation.

One of the primary erogenous zones, the anus is connected and interlaced with millions of highly sensitive nerve endings. Therefore, the preparation and penetration of the anus (with fingers, adult toys, etc) creates various pleasures solely or in combination with prostate/anal massage.

Over a third of the penis—the internal root or base of the penis—is hidden inside the body. And at the innermost point the prostate sits atop the penile root. This allows both solo or combined stimulation of the prostate and hidden section of the penis for additional stimulation, which is greatly enhanced when combined with stimulation of the external or outer section of the penis—in any number of ways (manually, orally, etc).

Psychological pleasure is also achieved. Unlike certain beliefs—like the Tantric philosophy, which attributes the psychological high to the male going against his natural dominant position by placing himself in a vulnerable or submissive position—Doms retain their dominant psychological high through the perspective that the sub is servicing them; remember, the dynamic in D/s remains constant. For instance, it makes no difference whether the Dom is standing while getting a blow-job or lying on his back: they remain the dominant partner. So if he commands the sub to administer prostate/anal massage while giving him a blow-job on his back the D/s dynamic is still intact: and this again disproves the misconception that dominance is diminished through the enjoyment of prostate massage.

Positions for Prostate Massage

Any position is appropriate to Doms who realize the D/s dynamic remains constant in the relationship: on back, side, all-fours, standing, etc. However, some positions naturally portray a more dominant look and feel, and may be better suited for fledgling Doms of any age, or for Doms that prefer a more dominant look.

The three I prefer can be used solely or combined with masturbation, mutual masturbation, or oral sex:

— Dom standing with sub kneeling in front facing him

— Dom lying on back with sub kneeling between his legs

— Dom on all fours with sub lying underneath, with head below pelvic region

Safety & Preparation

Like all sexual activity, remember to be safe and take time to prepare properly. Keep clean and use an ample amount of water-based lube with any anal penetration. And take as much time as necessary to arouse and prepare for penetration (especially for first-timers).

Getting Started

Begin slowly until you gain a sense of familiarity and comfort with this method of stimulation. Try various positions and utilize prostate/anal massage in combination with other methods of sexual stimulation—my personal favorite is having it done while receiving a blow-job. And don’t forget to communicate with your sub throughout the procedure so that they become accustomed to what feels best for you; after all, a loving sub wants to please you as much as you want to please them.


Additional Help

If you are not familiar with actual techniques there are many instructional articles and videos online that can be viewed to help you get started.

D/s Duet



Bound—but not gagged


Lips parting

Gazing and gazed upon






Tongues dancing

Fingers prancing



Hands sweaty

Get ready

Bodies shuffle

Sheets ruffle

Random stroking

No choking


Lots of poking

Couple having sex on a bed at home

Mirrored movements



Combined for improvements



Even when trembling

Here by choice

Lowered voice



Emotions roam

What the heck?

Breathe on neck

Leaning in

Lifting chin

Mute and muzzle

Lick and nuzzle

Biting and bit

while fingering clit


Press on


Silent plea

Eyes shine

Gloss over




Butt slapping

Legs parting











The strap




Elevate and resonate

Escalate and reverberate

Critical mass

Muscles tensing


Emotions sensing



Fever pitch

Rim-shot and rising

Son of a bitch!



Not mad


New toys



Skin flushed

Not rushed

Breathing erratic

Now shallow


Passion greed

Blood surging



Thundering in ears

Plundering—no fears






Stay in groove






Rhythm waning

Strength draining

Involuntary tremors

Fantasy glimmers

Momentary stutters

Occasional jitters


to D/s creativity

Nerve endings tingle and stir

Pleasure and pain

the line between does blur

Bodily craving

Passionate raving


One last shiver

and quiver



but acutely aware

Start to stare

Fixation returns

to object of affection

Loving reflection

Eyes meet

Hearts beat

Cuddle time


in the loving rendition

of Dominant percussion

and harmonious submission


Perks of Misbehaving

Some may call it odd, but Kat thought it befitting that her face is mere inches from the mood calendar Alpha, her Dom Daddy, attached to the wall of the master bedroom. Continue reading “Perks of Misbehaving”

Norma The Bitch

Norma was a bitch no matter how you looked at it. A god-awful, razor-tongued, snooty-nosed bitch.
Of course, Squinch Campbell hadn’t known that when he had married her. Like everyone else in town, he’d thought he was one lucky son-of-a-gun to be getting such a fine, upstanding woman for a wife. How could he have known that behind her angel face hid the daughter of the devil himself?
God almighty, the woman was downright mean. She was gonna drive him to an early grave—most likely planted right beside them other three husbands of hers.
If he didn’t get rid of her first.
Squinch had never contemplated murder before marrying Norma Bindie; why, he couldn’t even so much as squash a bug. But he’d never had no one pick and peck at him constantly, criticize every single thing he did and didn’t do, all the while looking at him like he was a pile of dog shit they had stepped in.
Continue reading “Norma The Bitch”

Comfort Zone

She loved Him deep and true

before she ever knew

D/s was a journey she would travel.


Ill-thoughts soon did arise

fearing He may soon despise

when her self-image doubts did unravel.


She knew most men like to look

and her Dom practically wrote the book

visually stimulated: artist with an artist’s eye.


How disconcerting this concern

she even hoped He would discern

her awful embarrassment and why.


Instead, He claimed He’d explore every inch

so she felt it would be a cinch

to die from shame right on the spot.


At the time she did not know

when thinking He might be a so-and-so

He’s the best catch she could ever have caught.


Took her thighs and spread them wide

nowhere to run, nowhere to hide;

He only gazed with love, never with lies.


Every inch He did explore

body and heart, to her very core,

till she saw herself through His eyes.


He knew when taking her from her comfort zone

she’d learn she was no longer alone

free to be she: safe and protected.


With a D/s relationship founded

with unconditional love and grounded

greatly enhanced and forever connected.