D/s and the Male G-Spot


The prostate gland is known as the male G-Spot; although it is not the exact corresponding equivalent to the female G-Spot. Since the female G-Spot is the internal or hidden section of the clitoris, you might assume the internal or hidden section of the penis (over one-third of the male organ) would be the corresponding equivalent to the female G-Spot. But such is not the case, even though stimulating the hidden section of the penis can be gratifying while enhancing orgasms.

The prostate gland—about the size of a walnut and positioned directly below the bladder—acquired the G-Spot title because of the seminal release triggered by stimulating the gland. Stimulation is often done through prostate/anal massage—often referred to as “milking the prostate”—or the use of adult toys, including implements specifically designed for that purpose.

Prostate Exam

Dominant Dilemma

A sizable percentage of Doms refuse to include prostate/anal massage in their sexual relations with subs or feel uneasy if they do, all because of certain stigmas that still accompany the act.

Even in the so-called Information Age, misconceptions abound, creating mental, emotional, and even physical barriers that hinder many Doms from enjoying male G-Spot stimulation. The two biggest misconceptions are as follows:

— Desiring any form of anal stimulation is a sign of homosexuality.

— Receiving anal stimulation from subs diminishes their dominance while empowering their subs.

Both beliefs are completely unfounded and predominantly arise from personal insecurities. Humans often latch onto excuses that appear to confirm predisposed beliefs, even without a shred of proof confirming the misconception, while there is a preponderance of evidence to disprove the misconception.

The predominant beliefs focusing on the origins of gender orientation (including homosexuality) —though diametrically opposed to each other—unanimously concur that anal stimulation has nothing to do with gender orientation.

As for D/s, the relationship dynamic is based upon a mutually agreed upon transference of power: a power exchange establishing a Dominant partner and a submissive partner. That dynamic remains in effect as long as both partners remain together in the D/s relationship. The power exchange does not flip-flop between partners (except in situations where the couples have chosen that option). Therefore the power exchange is always based on the relationship dynamic, not any form of sexual practice, position, or form of stimulation.


Experts in the fields of medicine, psychology, and philosophy attribute various positive consequences resulting from prostate/anal massage. Positive consequences that include, but are not limited to, the following: prevention against prostate cancer, alleviating erectile dysfunction, release of emotional and physical stress, and enhanced sexual pleasure—including stronger orgasms.

Multiple Stimulation/Increased Pleasure

Every experienced Dom knows that combining multiple stimulations allows them to increase their sub’s arousal and produce stronger orgasms. Similar consequences are achieved when combining multiple stimulations for their own pleasure. And a variety of pleasures can be experienced through prostate/anal massage.

Although the prostate cannot be touched directly, it can be stroked, rubbed, or pressed through a thin membrane in the rectum. And while the membrane may diminish the sensitivity (like a form fitting condom or glove), the prostate lobes are extremely sensitive to pressure. And various forms of manipulation can create an equal variety of sensations, including the superb sensation predominantly felt during ejaculation.

One of the primary erogenous zones, the anus is connected and interlaced with millions of highly sensitive nerve endings. Therefore, the preparation and penetration of the anus (with fingers, adult toys, etc) creates various pleasures solely or in combination with prostate/anal massage.

Over a third of the penis—the internal root or base of the penis—is hidden inside the body. And at the innermost point the prostate sits atop the penile root. This allows both solo or combined stimulation of the prostate and hidden section of the penis for additional stimulation, which is greatly enhanced when combined with stimulation of the external or outer section of the penis—in any number of ways (manually, orally, etc).

Psychological pleasure is also achieved. Unlike certain beliefs—like the Tantric philosophy, which attributes the psychological high to the male going against his natural dominant position by placing himself in a vulnerable or submissive position—Doms retain their dominant psychological high through the perspective that the sub is servicing them; remember, the dynamic in D/s remains constant. For instance, it makes no difference whether the Dom is standing while getting a blow-job or lying on his back: they remain the dominant partner. So if he commands the sub to administer prostate/anal massage while giving him a blow-job on his back the D/s dynamic is still intact: and this again disproves the misconception that dominance is diminished through the enjoyment of prostate massage.

Positions for Prostate Massage

Any position is appropriate to Doms who realize the D/s dynamic remains constant in the relationship: on back, side, all-fours, standing, etc. However, some positions naturally portray a more dominant look and feel, and may be better suited for fledgling Doms of any age, or for Doms that prefer a more dominant look.

The three I prefer can be used solely or combined with masturbation, mutual masturbation, or oral sex:

— Dom standing with sub kneeling in front facing him

— Dom lying on back with sub kneeling between his legs

— Dom on all fours with sub lying underneath, with head below pelvic region

Safety & Preparation

Like all sexual activity, remember to be safe and take time to prepare properly. Keep clean and use an ample amount of water-based lube with any anal penetration. And take as much time as necessary to arouse and prepare for penetration (especially for first-timers).

Getting Started

Begin slowly until you gain a sense of familiarity and comfort with this method of stimulation. Try various positions and utilize prostate/anal massage in combination with other methods of sexual stimulation—my personal favorite is having it done while receiving a blow-job. And don’t forget to communicate with your sub throughout the procedure so that they become accustomed to what feels best for you; after all, a loving sub wants to please you as much as you want to please them.


Additional Help

If you are not familiar with actual techniques there are many instructional articles and videos online that can be viewed to help you get started.

34 thoughts on “D/s and the Male G-Spot

  1. Thank you for the information, some I knew, some I didn’t. My Sir has no problem with laying back and having me service him. He can focus wholly on his pleasure. And I love pleasing him in this way. Maybe next time I’ll ask if he’d like me to use the vibrating prostate massager while I give him a blow job. Mmmm yummy.

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    1. I’m glad to hear that you and Sir have no trouble including it into your relationship. Many Doms and subs fail to communicate properly, and never get comfortable enough to trust and enjoy each other completely. And I think it’s a great idea for you to ask or even offer to do something new. Some Doms, especially those that did not initiate the D/s relationship, feel hesitant to bring up topics of such intimacy concerning themselves, especially when society places various misconceptions around the topic.
      Good luck and have fun.

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      1. Lol, my Sir has never had trouble discussing sex with me, he is very well informed. I’m the more prudish one but he is bringing me out of my shell. I think many people have difficulty discussing sex because it’s still a bit taboo and such an intimate part of a person. People (us included) get stuck on preconceived notions, on “shoulds” and “should nots”. Sir and I know it’s our relationship we get to make it what we want.
        Thanks! I’m sure we will 😉.

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      2. Kat and I agree; it’s our relationship, and we communicate and form it into what suits us. And hearing of the success of other D/s couples continues to inspire us in our journey. Have a good day, Beth.


  2. Very informative, my love, and well presented. There are many ways for a couple to give each other pleasure, and as long as it’s consensual and no one is hurt (except when using pain for stimulation), nothing should be considered off-limits. Sometimes preconceived ideas as to what is “normal” and what is not can prevent one from engaging in certain acts that could give them great pleasure … and that’s a shame.

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    1. Thank you, baby. And I agree with you 100%. And I’m happy you and I communicate so well, and base everything on the foundation of love between us. When one partner is willing to do whatever it takes to please the other partner without any kind of judgmental attitude or preconceived notions everything runs much smoother…and with a hell of a lot more pleasure. Mmm…mmm… good!

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  3. I also found your post really informative. I agree that this is a topic rarely discussed and it was great to read about it. I am lucky that my Sir is happy to discuss the things that he would like himself and this sort of intimacy is something that we enjoy. Thanks for the tips on possible positions; I like the sound of the blowjob at the same time so will see what he thinks.

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    1. Thank you, Missy. I’m glad you liked it. It truly does come down to both the level of love and communication within the couple, and Kat and I are glad to hear that you and His Lordship appear to have both.


  4. Thank you for the great post.

    This is something new my Sir and I have been talking about. He’s all for it. I was pleasantly surprised and now I can’t wait until W/we have a stretch of time where W/we can try it.

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    1. I’m glad you liked the post. And I hope you both discover a mutual benefit when you get a chance to include this into your relationship.


  5. I appreciate the respectful way you went about dispensing this information.

    My friend is a nurse and has had to insert anus medication through elderly men’s rectums. She informed me that many would have an erection while she went about this task. Needless to say, these old men were almost always “happy” to see Nurse Karen. 👩‍🏭

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    1. Thanks, Rose. I don’t think anyone should be embarrassed about what happens naturally to our bodies.
      And on a lighter note, I bet the elderly guys are equally thankful they can still get it up.

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  6. Thanks for the article! I really loved hearing your perspective about the misconceptions about anal pleasure for Dom men.

    I don’t know if this is too forward, but I’m writing a research paper for a class about the stigma of male sex toys/anal sex for heterosexual men. I was wondering if you would be interested in sharing your perspective, coming from the BDSM community? I’m sure you’re incredibly busy, but if you had the time to spare, it would help so much.

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    1. Thank you for your response. I’m glad you found something beneficial from the article.
      Regarding the research paper, go to our contact page and submit your idea and what kind of questions you need answered. I cannot agree until I know what it involves.


  7. Thank you for this post! I have been searching for the prostate orgasm for a while now! I have been experimenting with some prostate massagers and have been enjoying them! Thank you for the good information!

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