Never neglect the romance

Doms that don’t make time or put forth the effort to keep romance alive in their D/s relationships eventually rue the day they stopped.

I’ve been involved in D/s a long time. And I’ve noticed that both fledgling and experienced Doms can succumb to this neglectful and negative practice.

Fledgling Doms—of any age, not just the young—often go thru periods of Dom-frenzy. Their sex-life has never been better and they want to experience it all. After all, they simply have to demand it from their sub and she obeys. So, why waste time on romance?

The experienced Doms that eventually fall into the no romance trap usually do so because of stagnation: the exact opposite (or 180-degrees) of Dom-frenzy. Their relationships are stuck in a rut, going nowhere. Just the same old thing on a different day.

Any relationship can get dusty or rusty if it is not maintained. Remind your mate daily how much you love, cherish, and adore her. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time; but it’s time well spent. Yet, if you truly love her you will do even more.

Pursue her and woo her like you did when you first met. Show her she is worth winning over-and-over: as much now as she ever was.

Keep the romance alive. Maintain your solid foundation of love and your relationship can weather every storm or obstacle it comes across.

Doms should never assume

There is an old saying that states: If you assume, you make an ‘ass’ out of ‘u’ and ‘me.’

Let me give you an example that began on the 5th of July in 2013. After going to the local ER, they took x-rays and did ultrasounds on me. The ER doctor gave a diagnosis that would radically alter my life. I was placed on oxygen and a regimen of medications, and then handed off to the VA doctors to follow-up the treatments.

I was told to use the oxygen 24/7, and that I would be on it the rest of my life, along with the medications.

I never did use the oxygen 24/7, and I eventually convinced them to cancel it. They also lowered the meds but refused to cancel them.

Over the next 5 years there were additional hospital stays, multiple exams with dozens of medical professionals, including 2 VA primary care physicians. And they all prescribed modified treatments for my diagnosed conditions.

That is, until recently, when I acquired a new primary care doctor. A doctor that chooses not to assume. Instead of following up on the set regimen, he went back over my entire medical history. And after double-checking all the x-rays, etc., he felt the original ER doctor misdiagnosed me back in 2013. And he set me up with some additional tests to verify his conclusion.

The final test was done in the wee hours of the morning on March 8th, 2018. By the afternoon, my doctor let me know I could stop the meds, because he confirmed I was misdiagnosed.

For 5 years each medical professional simply assumed the first diagnosis was correct, and it clouded their minds to every test, exam, condition, and even side-effects that I’ve endured until I finally got a doctor that looked at the evidence with fresh, unclouded eyes…and never assumed anything.

What kind of a Dom would I be if I assumed, upon meeting kat, that she needed me to be exactly like my previous D/s mate?

If I would have treated kat like my late wife needed and wanted to be treated it would have turned into a colossal fuck-up, just like all those medical professionals treating me based on a misdiagnosis they simply assumed to be correct.

Everyone is a unique individual, including all subs, and they need to be dealt with on an individual basis. Communicate, observe, and learn about them. And never make the foolish mistake of assuming something. Make sure before you act on it.

Alpha’s Quotes: 8th installment

This is the 8th installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common-sense quotes.

 

“All successful D/s relationships come about thru an abundance of communication, trial, and error.”

“Straight Doms should never bend over in front of a switch sub.”

“If you don’t take the time to find a compatible mate you’ll discover any time with a non-compatible mate is a waste of time.”

“Pride may come before a fall, but monster egos cause more relationship fuck-ups.”

“If you can’t satisfy your sub, don’t get mad at them.”

“A Dom is a protector, that’s what you represent; so, don’t ever abuse your sub beyond agreed consent.”

“If you’re too wasted to know which orifice you’re about to lick, suck, or fuck, postpone it till later, cuz’ you’re not fit to satisfy it anyway.”

“Don’t ever give your sub a reason to resent giving consent.”

“A smart ass gets a little wiser with each punishment.”

“Threesomes wouldn’t be so taxing if you didn’t have to bring in a third person to do it.”

 

Have a good day!

Alpha’s Quotes: 7th installment

This is the 7th installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common sense quotes.

 

“A sub that’s tied and gagged learns more than a poser free to brag.”

“A solicitous sub is a godsend to a new Dom.”

“D/s isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort. So, if you’re not putting forth the effort, don’t complain about the outcome.”

“Don’t judge a sub by their submission or a Dom by their dominance; judge both by the full-measure of their humanity.”

“A Dom that makes their sub constantly walk on egg shells will fall from grace like Humpty Dumpty.”

“If your sub loves to struggle against her binds, don’t use knots that self-tighten.”

“Posers hover around wannabe subs like vultures around a carcass.”

“Even a sassy sub needs to be ungagged if you want a blow-job.”

“Posers that throw their weight around with a sub, are soon alone with only their dick to rub.”

“You can speak your mind daily; have your say, and speak your piece; while your head is between thighs lip-synching, with a pure tongue-in-cheek release.”

 

Have a good day!

Alpha’s Quotes: 6th Installment

This is the sixth installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common-sense quotes.

 

“One definition of a good fucking morning: a smiling and moaning sub watching you shave in the mirror as you fuck her from behind.”

“Even if your sub wants to be your little pony, don’t spur her out of the chute.”

“Anal retentive Doms never realize an overabundance of protocols is a waste of time.”

“After-care is worthless to an unsatisfied sub.”

“Complacency kills creativity; for instance, pussy-ala’-sub should be an ever-changing recipe.”

“Fucking your sub raw doesn’t mean satisfaction, it means sore… learn the difference.”

“If you push a sub too far, too fast, all you’ll accomplish is going back to the beginning.”

“The crack of creation from front to back, may be your crack of discovery… or your crack of doom.”

“Doms are skilled rip-off artists: they rip-off tops, bottoms, skirts, bras, panties, etc.”

“You can be sure that all wild sex tales are equal parts perspiration, exaggeration, and imagination.”

 

Have a good day!