Doms should never assume

There is an old saying that states: If you assume, you make an ‘ass’ out of ‘u’ and ‘me.’

Let me give you an example that began on the 5th of July in 2013. After going to the local ER, they took x-rays and did ultrasounds on me. The ER doctor gave a diagnosis that would radically alter my life. I was placed on oxygen and a regimen of medications, and then handed off to the VA doctors to follow-up the treatments.

I was told to use the oxygen 24/7, and that I would be on it the rest of my life, along with the medications.

I never did use the oxygen 24/7, and I eventually convinced them to cancel it. They also lowered the meds but refused to cancel them.

Over the next 5 years there were additional hospital stays, multiple exams with dozens of medical professionals, including 2 VA primary care physicians. And they all prescribed modified treatments for my diagnosed conditions.

That is, until recently, when I acquired a new primary care doctor. A doctor that chooses not to assume. Instead of following up on the set regimen, he went back over my entire medical history. And after double-checking all the x-rays, etc., he felt the original ER doctor misdiagnosed me back in 2013. And he set me up with some additional tests to verify his conclusion.

The final test was done in the wee hours of the morning on March 8th, 2018. By the afternoon, my doctor let me know I could stop the meds, because he confirmed I was misdiagnosed.

For 5 years each medical professional simply assumed the first diagnosis was correct, and it clouded their minds to every test, exam, condition, and even side-effects that I’ve endured until I finally got a doctor that looked at the evidence with fresh, unclouded eyes…and never assumed anything.

What kind of a Dom would I be if I assumed, upon meeting kat, that she needed me to be exactly like my previous D/s mate?

If I would have treated kat like my late wife needed and wanted to be treated it would have turned into a colossal fuck-up, just like all those medical professionals treating me based on a misdiagnosis they simply assumed to be correct.

Everyone is a unique individual, including all subs, and they need to be dealt with on an individual basis. Communicate, observe, and learn about them. And never make the foolish mistake of assuming something. Make sure before you act on it.

Alpha’s Quotes: 8th installment

This is the 8th installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common-sense quotes.


“All successful D/s relationships come about thru an abundance of communication, trial, and error.”

“Straight Doms should never bend over in front of a switch sub.”

“If you don’t take the time to find a compatible mate you’ll discover any time with a non-compatible mate is a waste of time.”

“Pride may come before a fall, but monster egos cause more relationship fuck-ups.”

“If you can’t satisfy your sub, don’t get mad at them.”

“A Dom is a protector, that’s what you represent; so, don’t ever abuse your sub beyond agreed consent.”

“If you’re too wasted to know which orifice you’re about to lick, suck, or fuck, postpone it till later, cuz’ you’re not fit to satisfy it anyway.”

“Don’t ever give your sub a reason to resent giving consent.”

“A smart ass gets a little wiser with each punishment.”

“Threesomes wouldn’t be so taxing if you didn’t have to bring in a third person to do it.”


Have a good day!

Alpha’s Quotes: 7th installment

This is the 7th installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common sense quotes.


“A sub that’s tied and gagged learns more than a poser free to brag.”

“A solicitous sub is a godsend to a new Dom.”

“D/s isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort. So, if you’re not putting forth the effort, don’t complain about the outcome.”

“Don’t judge a sub by their submission or a Dom by their dominance; judge both by the full-measure of their humanity.”

“A Dom that makes their sub constantly walk on egg shells will fall from grace like Humpty Dumpty.”

“If your sub loves to struggle against her binds, don’t use knots that self-tighten.”

“Posers hover around wannabe subs like vultures around a carcass.”

“Even a sassy sub needs to be ungagged if you want a blow-job.”

“Posers that throw their weight around with a sub, are soon alone with only their dick to rub.”

“You can speak your mind daily; have your say, and speak your piece; while your head is between thighs lip-synching, with a pure tongue-in-cheek release.”


Have a good day!

Alpha’s Quotes: 6th Installment

This is the sixth installment of Alpha’s humorous, witty, or common-sense quotes.


“One definition of a good fucking morning: a smiling and moaning sub watching you shave in the mirror as you fuck her from behind.”

“Even if your sub wants to be your little pony, don’t spur her out of the chute.”

“Anal retentive Doms never realize an overabundance of protocols is a waste of time.”

“After-care is worthless to an unsatisfied sub.”

“Complacency kills creativity; for instance, pussy-ala’-sub should be an ever-changing recipe.”

“Fucking your sub raw doesn’t mean satisfaction, it means sore… learn the difference.”

“If you push a sub too far, too fast, all you’ll accomplish is going back to the beginning.”

“The crack of creation from front to back, may be your crack of discovery… or your crack of doom.”

“Doms are skilled rip-off artists: they rip-off tops, bottoms, skirts, bras, panties, etc.”

“You can be sure that all wild sex tales are equal parts perspiration, exaggeration, and imagination.”


Have a good day!

Alpha’s Quotes: 5th installment

This is the 5th installment of the humorous, witty, or common-sense quotes by Alpha.


“Saving money on the cheapest rope is not a good idea when suspending your sub from the rafters.”

“Never eat your sub’s pussy when her bladder is full—unless you’re into golden showers.”

“Real Doms don’t party with posers.”

“A sub that’s lost direction needs a good Dom for a course correction.”

“Posers think they are ‘cock-of-the-walk’—until they try to order a real Dom’s sub around.”

“You may think it’s kinky and cool to dance with the devil in the pale moonlight—but I’d rather be with my sub dancing all night with her fleshy delights.”

“What does a sub say to a limp-dick Dom that demands a blow-job? – Where’s the beef?”

“An incompatible sub can never be compatibly trained.”

“Foreplay is how you treat your mate every second of every day.”

“D/s practitioners have no need for porn; that’s like substituting wishful thinking for a fulfilled fantasy.”


Have a good day!