When a D/s relationship is in sync—both Dom and sub in the proper mindset—it’s one of the best experiences any couple could ever have. That’s why I prefer a D/s relationship over all other options.
Unfortunately, although unique, humans are an imperfect species that can foul-up a perfect wet dream—like a relationship built with a D/s dynamic.
In prior posts, I’ve touched on various areas to protect or maintain while building a solid and loving D/s relationship. In this post I want to stress maintaining the love between the couple. It’s something we all know is important, but (for a variety of reasons) we often overlook or become complacent about: eventually to the detriment of ourselves or the relationship.
KC&MC were married six-years before beginning their D/s journey. They got caught up in sub-frenzy with an order of Dom-frenzy on the side. Both were spurred on by a reignited sex-life that had fallen off for a couple years prior to their commitment to D/s. So, they put all their energy and effort into fulfilling their reawakened lusts.
Any couple in the D/s world for any length of time knows sessions or scenarios (spontaneous or not) fueled by pure lust can have some very satisfying orgasmic rewards. But a relationship that only fuels the lusts will eventually crash and burn or fizzle out when the love foundation rots away.
KC&MC went through a very rough period. They thought a good sex-life alone could fulfill the relationship. They were wrong. But they found out in time, and after just a few counseling sessions they were headed in the right direction again.
Almost every homeowner I know spends hundreds or thousands annually on the cosmetic appearance and upkeep of their home. That fact is stated in their general conversations constantly. But I cannot recall one telling me they also had their foundation checked.
Couples that treat their relationships the same way shouldn’t be surprised when their loving foundation cracks, shifts, crumbles, or falls into a sinkhole.
Every couple should build their relationship on a loving foundation—along with respect, trust, communication, compatibility, honesty, etc. And that foundation needs to be maintained and reinforced constantly. After all, if you make a concerted effort to maintain the love and romance the relationship is founded on, your sex-life will always have a solid foundation to build on.
In other words, if you want a great sex-life keep love and romance alive.
PS: What, you’re still here? Stop reading and go love you mate!