Long-Distance D/s

I’ve read a few posts recently that have dealt with periods when distance is a factor in maintaining their D/s dynamic. Traveling for business, family obligations, long-distance relationships, and even vacations or weekend trips can disrupt the flow of the D/s dynamic, especially in new D/s relationships. And each couple must communicate and decide how to handle these separations when they arise. Continue reading “Long-Distance D/s”

Emotional Reassurance: a Dom’s responsibility

Fulfilling our sub’s wants and needs, especially sexually, is an honor and a privilege for us Doms: not to mention a stroke to our ego and a hell of a fucking turn-on. But it’s also our responsibility to keep our sub protected and safe, and that doesn’t just mean physically. We need to remember their psychological and emotional stability as well. And I caution you to never overlook those areas, or get into the habit of taking them lightly—especially when you consider the fact that women, for the most part, are far more emotional than men. Continue reading “Emotional Reassurance: a Dom’s responsibility”

Cathartic Release

A Master Dom knows the right measure

Cathartic release through pain and pleasure

Spanked and flogged

Unhampered, unclogged

A de-stressing session is a true blue treasure

 

Stress is a killer that’s got to be defeated

A weekly release instituted and repeated

A sub that’s really cranky

Needs a Dom’s hanky panky

To bring emotional release, although physically treated

 

Skin on skin begins the perfect combination

Then paddle, belt, and flogger—or use imagination

Feel emotional rush

When the skin gets flush

So whack it, and smack it—no more hesitation

 

Pent-up stress is all that you destroy

With a cathartic release that you employ

So have no fear

When you whip that rear

The tears of pain will turn to tears of joy

 

Though cathartic release seems like a perfect invention

There’s one more thing I must surely mention

Don’t ever whack

Don’t ever smack

Unless it’s done with a loving intention

 

Anger will only add stress to the mix

And double the trouble you still need to fix

So don’t be rejected

Keep her safe and protected

And take her to sub-space with your loving bag of tricks

Bottom Topping

Everyone has experienced it

Bad days, we all have got ’um

But what do you do when your sub has one…

and starts topping from the bottom?

 

I’m not talking about being a bit frisky

That can be an arousing distraction

I’m talking about total disrespect

A foul mouth intentional infraction

 

It often begins with a snide remark

Then they get sassy with no sign of stopping

So how long is too long when this begins…

when your sassy sub starts bottom-topping?

 

Should it matter what season it is…

winter, spring, summer, or autumn?

Your sub should submit in all seasons

It’s not natural to top from the bottom

 

Having a bad day is just no excuse

To create a need for relationship mopping

And it’s your responsibility as the Dom

To crackdown on your sub’s bottom-topping

 

As soon as the infractions begin

The buns of your sub, you should swat ‘um

She must bear your marks for every offense

The consequence for topping from the bottom

 

The power exchange… both accepted the roles

And it’s bad for your sub to try swapping

It causes a decline in the D/s dynamic

Whenever a sub starts bottom-topping

 

If your sub spouts off without much thought

Consider it a minor infraction

Punish her quick, but forgive her quicker

You’ll inspire some D/s satisfaction

 

But if your sub was intentionally bad

And you took a belt to her bare bottom

If she’s still not contrite perhaps there should be

Additional punishment that reminds her of Sodom

Expectations on the D/s journey

Missy at submissy.com recently published an interesting and thought provoking post on expectations in a D/s relationship. While she feels expectations are “a great thing” that allow you “to set standards and to measure where you are in terms of meeting your targets,” she equally speaks of “experiencing the downs of D/s” as a result of unmet expectations. And she is correct in assuming that she is “not alone” in the confusion that periodically accompanies unmet expectations due to the complexities of life and the varying wants and needs of two individuals trying to fulfill each other’s expectations while achieving their own. And she was interested in hearing from others on this issue. Continue reading “Expectations on the D/s journey”