I read a blog recently—I would name it if I could remember it, but we read so many blogs that I’ve forgotten which it was—that mentioned a big career change and the person’s fears surrounding it, including the fear of not being able to give enough time to their mate.
Well, I’ve recently found myself in a similar situation. I’m not changing positions, I’m adding another position to the three positions I already hold with the organization.
The project could make a big difference to the organization and the small community. And, since it was my idea, and I’m the only person with sufficient skills and experience, I couldn’t very well turn down the position when the project was approved.
Presently, the project is in the final preparation stage prior to launch. So, as you can imagine, it’s occupying a lot of my time. And, as an Alpha, I still want to fulfill my other responsibilities.
Inevitably, with more to accomplish there is less time to get it all done. That includes relationships. And I definitely don’t want anything coming between me and kat.
Kat is always supportive with things I choose to do, and this situation is no exception. However, she was going through one of her depressed spells when this project began, and I was still recovering from bronchitis. So, I worried if the diminished time together would compound the issues and create an emotional distance.
Those who follow our blog know I’m a stickler for constant communication and guarding intimacy in order to maintain a positive emotional connection between us, while keeping our foundation of unconditional love solid.
We couldn’t devote the same amount of time, but we did and do make time everyday to communicate and connect. It’s something we’ve done from the beginning of our relationship. In fact, my day never feels complete until we connect daily.
Kat and I have often given up sleep time to ensure we get enough time to communicate and connect. And, let me tell you, maintaining that connection is one of the best things for the relationship we’ve ever done.
We’ve all heard variations of the cliché regarding time, that if you don’t have quantity make sure the time you spend together is quality time. And I cannot stress it enough, because it’s worth the effort. After all, preventing problems before they occur is much easier and less detrimental to the relationship than cleaning up problems once they’ve burst onto the scene.
It also helps to have a mate that agrees arguments are a waste of time. Yes, communication needs to be constant, but it also needs to be respectful. Though kat and I have different beliefs, and disagree on certain issues, we’ve never had an argument or fight, because we love and respect each other. And that’s a winning combination.
So, while I may still worry from time-to-time about having enough time for kat as this new project moves forward, I’m content to know what time we have will be used wisely.