Doms that don’t make time or put forth the effort to keep romance alive in their D/s relationships eventually rue the day they stopped.
I’ve been involved in D/s a long time. And I’ve noticed that both fledgling and experienced Doms can succumb to this neglectful and negative practice.
Fledgling Doms—of any age, not just the young—often go thru periods of Dom-frenzy. Their sex-life has never been better and they want to experience it all. After all, they simply have to demand it from their sub and she obeys. So, why waste time on romance?
The experienced Doms that eventually fall into the no romance trap usually do so because of stagnation: the exact opposite (or 180-degrees) of Dom-frenzy. Their relationships are stuck in a rut, going nowhere. Just the same old thing on a different day.
Any relationship can get dusty or rusty if it is not maintained. Remind your mate daily how much you love, cherish, and adore her. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time; but it’s time well spent. Yet, if you truly love her you will do even more.
Pursue her and woo her like you did when you first met. Show her she is worth winning over-and-over: as much now as she ever was.
Keep the romance alive. Maintain your solid foundation of love and your relationship can weather every storm or obstacle it comes across.