All a Dom needs

See your sub kneel and reverently look at you

Smell the sweat of her inflamed body in service to you

Taste the elixir of arousal between her legs

Hear the whimpers, moans, and screams of satisfaction

and feel your bodies quiver together in the throes of orgasmic release.

 

On a good day—it’s all you’ll need.
On a bad day—it’s all you’ll need.

D/s and the Christian belief

I continually come across blogs where someone with a Christian belief is questioning certain aspects of D/s with regard to their faith and beliefs. As a Christian, I too questioned the acceptability of many things when I considered a D/s relationship. In fact, I delved deep and studied every area that even remotely dealt with sex and relationships, because I knew I could never fully let go and enjoy the D/s relationship if it did not, or could not, fit within my faith and beliefs.

The hard truth is that there are definitely areas in the D/s world that are clearly unacceptable to a Christian belief. But there are areas within the D/s world that are acceptable to believers as well.

I can labor long and tediously spell out all the original definitions of the controversial words and topics, along with all the chapters and verses within the biblical texts, but I’ll spare you. I’ll just give a quick rundown on the most widely asked questions and concerns that I’ve come across in the blogs I’ve read.

Masturbation
Solo and mutual masturbation, along with including marital aids is acceptable.
[* And for any naysayers out there, don’t bother bringing up Onan. If you study that story in-depth you will see it has nothing to do with masturbation. He was condemned for disobedience to God, not a sex act.]

Anal
Anal play is acceptable between a man and woman/wife. It may not be politically correct, but it is biblically correct.

Spanking
It is never biblically denounced, and there are acceptable punishments shown, which leans toward acceptability.

Oral
Similar to anal, it is biblically allowed between a man and woman/wife.

Bondage and Discipline
No specific passages on this. However, when compared to other definitions and terminology a good argument can be found to accept milder forms of B&D, but there are areas of extreme B&D that definitely crossover to biblical unacceptability (like bloodletting, etc.).

Marital Aids/Sex toys
Never biblically denounced; it is acceptable within other biblically acceptable areas.

Pornography
Pornographic, nude, or sexual images that do not fall outside of biblically accepted norms are acceptable, but others are not.

Homosexuality
I think everyone knows that homosexuality is “politically correct” but not biblically correct.

Nudity/nudism
It is not denounced, and is acceptable within biblical boundaries.

Role-Playing
It is not denounced, and is acceptable within biblical boundaries.

Multiple Partners Simultaneously
There are certain sects within certain denominations that claim this is acceptable, but they do not do it strictly on a biblical basis, because it is biblically unacceptable.

Let me iterate, the answers given are for Christians that want to know if the specific sexual topics mentioned are biblically acceptable or not. It has nothing to do with political correctness, or any other belief.

Believer/Non-Believer
One thing I noticed in a lot of the blogs with biblical concerns was that a lot of them had a mate that believed and one that didn’t. As long as they have a foundation built on love, honesty, respect, and compatibility, and they communicate well together, they can have a successful D/s relationship. But the faith issue will definitely need to be discussed. And I speak from experience, because kat and I are “unequally yoked,” as the saying goes. However, I’m going to address it from more of a psychological standpoint.

I caution the non-believing mate (especially if it’s the Dom), do not selfishly push the believer into areas that will force them to go against their beliefs. You might convince them to do it for “love” or for “you.” But is it really love, or just your fantasy?

In the long run you may damage their faith, and they will eventually resent you (because they’ll eventually feel guilt or shame for going against their God).

Is it worth it? After all, as their mate (especially a Dom), you’re supposed to care about them, and what makes them happy and gives them peace—plus keeps them protected and safe. Just like they choose to do for you, especially subs, that choose to submit to you physically, their husband/mate, like they spiritually submit to God.

A poser’s wet dream

Clear a path you do-gooder Doms
vacate your ‘ho’ and climb a tree
cuz’ I’m gonna pack your slut
and widen her with my girth
I’m a silver-backed he-gorilla
on a jungle wide jamboree
and I’ve come to D/s-ville to celebrate my birth

I was spawned by the Head-Master
a true natural disaster from over yonder
in the Valley of BDSM
where no self-respecting Dom could ever dwell
Where every sub is as gentle as a twister
and ownership includes their sister
and an obligation to daily grind and blister
their twats hotter than hell

I was suckled by a flea-bitten badger
and weaned on tick and chigger gin
Sidewinders were my playmates as a young buck
and everyday I had to train
to become a chip off the ‘old block’
My tongue and gums were numb from so much cunnilingus
and I’d wear out a house of hussies
filling their pussies to the brim
just to warm-up my cock

I’m a one-of-a-kind Dom like no other
I’ll fuck your sisters, aunts, and mother
I’ll even make your straight-laced brother queer
But only if they beg all night
all whimpers, whines, and moans
and finally bribe me with a keg of beer

So, line-up gents, handover your subs
I’ll school you all in how to dominate
But don’t wait up, cuz’ I’m feeling frisky
and I’ve switched to whiskey
and I plan on filling each hole twice—
maybe thrice
Now give me some breathing room
don’t cramp my style
and I’ll send what’s left of your subs
back to you if you’re patient—
cuz’ it’ll take awhile

Yep! He was getting horny
His member grew an inch
Unfortunately, he only began with two
And now comes the thorny part
when it did quiver and flinch
He tried to pinch off the tip
while the whole shaft hid in his palm
But before he got his grip
there was a tiny pop and fizzle—
and over his hand it lightly did drizzle

No thunder-clap or roaring wind
just a spit before the calm
Another day was dawning
His right hand his only friend
The only sub in sight
a half-eaten sandwich
“Another masturbation morning,” he said
“What a bitch!”
though he hasn’t even mastered that

Good morning, little Peter Poser
a sad sack and loser
you’ll never have a sexy sub that creams and screams
Though, even you have a place to enter
Not as a Dom, as a john
and you won’t own, you’ll rent her
And, of course, you have each night
when you rest your weary head
when you lay upon your bed
and soak your hand
playing a Dom in your dreams

Arousal Non-concordance

Have you ever been really turned on, quivering and shaking, literally begging your Dom, “Please, please, please, fuck me now, Daddy (or Sir or Master)!” And he says, “Not yet, kitten (or whatever his pet name is for you), not till you’re soaking wet.” And you are not. Maybe he thinks you’re not aroused at all—after all, the proof is in the pudding…er…wetness of the pussy—when in fact you’re about to spontaneously combust.

Or your Dom wants you to try something new, and it doesn’t really do anything for you, but he thinks you’re not being honest because you got wet. Again, wetness = arousal.

This is called arousal non-concordance. It’s nothing new; science has been aware of it for quite some time. And it happens to both women and men, though a much higher percentage of women are affected. It happens when arousal (the subjective feeling of desire) and genital response differ.

All genital response says (in both women and men) is that the genitals are reacting to something they perceive as sexually relevant, and it doesn’t have to be something that turns you on. For instance, pressure against the genitals—think riding a bike or tight pants—can get a reaction. Even watching porn with content that disgusts you can trigger a response. And so can rape. Your genitals—not your brain—perceived a sexual relevance.

Arousal, which is the subjective feeling of desiring/enjoying a sexual activity, takes place in the brain, while genital response takes place in the genitals. And only about 10% of the time do they overlap in women. It’s around 50% of the time for men.

The beauty of D/s is that in this situation you have ample time for your body or mind to play catch-up, to sync. Sex in a D/s relationship is not hurried, it’s slow and sensual, an erotic feast of sensation. There’s no rush to the finish line.

Alpha believes in the school of thought that “foreplay begins after the last orgasm”. When we’re together, he constantly feeds my arousal through words, deeds, and touch, which are not necessarily of a sexual nature. He knows women, knows their arousal is very much based on emotion. He knows he needs to pull my mind and body together for us to have mind-blowing sex. And he knew this before either one of us had heard of arousal non-concordance.

I think arousal non-concordance is more of a problem for vanilla couples than ones who practice D/s, although it still can happen. But if it does, just slow down…maybe request a mind fuck (Works for me!), and reach for the lube. And above all, don’t stress about it.

Obsession

When a long-term fantasy becomes a mind-blowing reality, does the object of obsession decrease, increase, or transform?

The spent form before him glistened from the staggered moonlight squeezing between the half-closed blinds. His sweat mingled with hers. His the more abundant, the outpouring of intense effort.

No outward effort on her part, though equally intense…for she had to endure.

Naked. Completely exposed to his wandering eyes and roaming hands. A visual feast. A tantalizing tactile trip from head-to-toe, with countless repeat journeys.

The first ninety-minutes of the session spread-eagled on her back: wrists and ankles bound. The second half of the session on her stomach, ass raised on pillows. No gag. Never a gag. It’s such a fucking turn-on to hear, with clarity, every whimper, moan, groan, and scream his obsessive use of her body elicits—but especially the words.

Though he is a man—and like most men, visually stimulated—never discard auditory arousal. The rush he gets when she pleads to be spanked and fucked harder triggers a harder erection. When she begs him to “please stop,” knowing full-well he’ll push her to the next level can actually add an inch to his member. And when she screams “Daddy” in the throes of orgasmic release, he’s forever thankful to be a man—and a natural Alpha.

So, when a long-term fantasy becomes a mind-blowing reality, does the object of obsession decrease, increase, or transform?

In his case, she increased and transformed into his sole object of affection and adoration.